How To Stop Negative Influence Dead In Its Tracks
Publication: RidiculouslyExtraordinary.
Posted by Ryan Neal
How To Stop Negative Influence Dead In Its Tracks
Publication: RidiculouslyExtraordinary. Posted by Ryan Neal

In the regular course of your day you're bombarded with messages and propaganda from other people. Print media, radio, TV, blogs, movies, friends, acquaintances, the guy on the corner on his soapbox screaming into a megaphone. (Really, how effective is that? Come on guy with the megaphone.)

Someone asked me recently how I keep my eyes on the prize when so many people are trying to influence me with their point of view.

It's really pretty simple. Although I'm confident in my ways I'm open to other ideas. I don't shun influence. It can be a good thing. Hell, if it wasn't for influence I wouldn't be doing what I'm doing today. Starting this blog was heavily influenced by Chris, Cody, and Tim.

Positive influence is good. Even when I don't agree I welcome opinions and ideas from people I respect. And that's key. Respect.

So the real goal is to keep negative influence out of your life.

Here's how to do that:

  1. Take a few minutes and write down what you value. What is important to you? Morally and otherwise. Write down what you think and how you feel about controversial and mundane topics alike. It helps to write this stuff down so when you're confronted on your views you're clear in what you believe.
  2. When you're confronted with someone who has opposing or different views, don't react right away. Ask yourself if it's coming from a place of love and respect or is it maybe coming from a place of "I don't care what you think, you're wrong, it's my way or no way."
You might almost think that because of the way I approach certain topics I'm contradicting myself here. Even when it sounds like a "it's my way or no way" situation it truly is because I want you to feel it when something has positively affected my life. Vegansim, no TV, minimalism, whatever the case may be. It's impossible to state how important those things are until you've attempted them. I only know because I was on the direct opposite side of the issue on all of them at one point in my life. I thought vegans were crazy and I ate meat every day. I thought TV was OK and I literally left mine on for 12 hours/day. I thought owning stuff was important and I owned a lot.

Who has your best interests at heart?

You do. Nobody else ever totally has your best interests at heart. If they say they do, they're lying. When someone is trying to influence you it's because they have a foot on the court, a ball in the game. That doesn't mean it's a bad thing, it's just the truth. Yes, I want to positively influence you. And yes, that benefits me.

The more people who subscribe to my RSS feed, join the Freedom Fighters, or Like my facebook page, the more people I get to interact with who are similar to me. Geographically speaking it's not easy to find a whole lot of people similar to us. But spread out across the whole world there are many. If you're part of this movement it benefits you to spread the message because you get to interact with all of these wonderful people. And that's how we're growing this massive, positively influential, community.

I don't talk about numbers here much, but we're closing in on 7,000 total subscribers and that's really kick ass.

Thank you for doing what you do, being who you are, and spreading the message far and wide.


My friend Tyler has a course coming out tomorrow called Guerrilla Influence Formula all about how to use your influence as a force for good. It's a really solid course and comes with a 1,000 subscriber guarantee. (In other words, if you follow what Tyler writes about you'll gain at least 1,000 subscribers to your website/blog/cause or you get your money back.)

Side note: Tyler interviewed me for the course.

Bonus side note: buy through this link, forward me your receipt (and your mailing address), and I'll mail you a copy of my favorite business book (#1 on my list) that is perfectly complementary to Tyler's course. That book, of course, is Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Dr Robert Cialdini. (I'll ship to anywhere in the US or Canada. Live somewhere else? Get in touch and I'll figure something else out for you.)