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		<title>By: Usman</title>
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		<dc:creator>Usman</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 01 May 2010 09:13:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>In my opinion, the reason people strive for things they don&#039;t want in life is because we are taught from a young age not to take risks.

Following your passion usually involves risks. Risks which can lead to not a decent-job, little benefits, low pension rates.. and etc. - Well, we&#039;re taught to think of it that way. 

To tell you the truth, I recently started thinking that I should follow my passion. I have TRULY accepted that actually. I shouldn&#039;t just say that I&#039;m &quot;thinking&quot; it. 

Personally, I have found that it&#039;s the people you surround yourself with. I really like the concept of spending time with the &quot;right-people&quot;.  
i.e. my parents wanted me to become a doctor, people in my program wanted to do the same thing (competition).... I did too... but really... nope! If I could do what I really want in life, then hell no. 

I graduated with a medical sciences degree last year. I&#039;ve written the admission tests to grad school, I have applied and have done interviews... but you know what if I get accepted, I won&#039;t take it. Jeez, thinking about that. If I end up trapping myself in something I don&#039;t like.... I&#039;m going to be a dreamer the rest of my life, like the fella you mentioned in the video.

Thanks for the wise words.
Cheers</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In my opinion, the reason people strive for things they don&#8217;t want in life is because we are taught from a young age not to take risks.</p>
<p>Following your passion usually involves risks. Risks which can lead to not a decent-job, little benefits, low pension rates.. and etc. &#8211; Well, we&#8217;re taught to think of it that way. </p>
<p>To tell you the truth, I recently started thinking that I should follow my passion. I have TRULY accepted that actually. I shouldn&#8217;t just say that I&#8217;m &#8220;thinking&#8221; it. </p>
<p>Personally, I have found that it&#8217;s the people you surround yourself with. I really like the concept of spending time with the &#8220;right-people&#8221;.<br />
i.e. my parents wanted me to become a doctor, people in my program wanted to do the same thing (competition)&#8230;. I did too&#8230; but really&#8230; nope! If I could do what I really want in life, then hell no. </p>
<p>I graduated with a medical sciences degree last year. I&#8217;ve written the admission tests to grad school, I have applied and have done interviews&#8230; but you know what if I get accepted, I won&#8217;t take it. Jeez, thinking about that. If I end up trapping myself in something I don&#8217;t like&#8230;. I&#8217;m going to be a dreamer the rest of my life, like the fella you mentioned in the video.</p>
<p>Thanks for the wise words.<br />
Cheers</p>
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		<title>By: Karol</title>
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		<dc:creator>Karol</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Feb 2010 07:21:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi Peter,

Thank you! I appreciate your comments.

&quot;Fortunately for me, the empty lessons learned from achieving what I thought I wanted has taught me that I never really needed that stuff anyway.&quot; Exactly. I learned the same lesson. I wonder if it&#039;s possible to learn that lesson without actually going through it?

Have fun fully realizing your innate potential! :)

Karol</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Peter,</p>
<p>Thank you! I appreciate your comments.</p>
<p>&#8220;Fortunately for me, the empty lessons learned from achieving what I thought I wanted has taught me that I never really needed that stuff anyway.&#8221; Exactly. I learned the same lesson. I wonder if it&#8217;s possible to learn that lesson without actually going through it?</p>
<p>Have fun fully realizing your innate potential! :)</p>
<p>Karol</p>
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		<title>By: Peter Mis</title>
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		<dc:creator>Peter Mis</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Feb 2010 03:48:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Karol,

I recently discovered your work and I am thrilled that I did.

I, too, am an accomplished striver, successfully achieving &quot;important&quot; goals that were suddenly not so important once the goal was met.  Quite often the picture of the steak on the menu looked a lot better than it tasted.  What&#039;s cool about life is that if you really pay attention to it, life will let you know what it is you need to be doing.

Too often the noise of Madison Ave drowns out that voice of life with glitzy ads selling me on a &quot;better life&quot; than the one I have right now.  We all jump on that bandwagon because that&#039;s what everyone else we know and admire is doing.  Fortunately for me, the empty lessons learned from achieving what I thought I wanted has taught me that I never really needed that stuff anyway.

I&#039;m happy that I was able to jump off that bandwagon and began walking back to my real self, the self that has always been the only thing I really ever needed.  I have rediscovered my self, and have learned to appreciate all that I am and all that I have already in my life.  No things will ever make me happy.

My new goal is to fully realize my innate potential.  We are all here to fully develop our unique combination of talents, gifts, and abilities and then share all that we are with the world.  As I&#039;ve evolved to this level of higher responsibility, I feel it is my obligation to be all that I can be and offer it to the world.  That&#039;s the reason I started blogging...not for money, nor for fame.  Perhaps my experiences can enlighten others that it&#039;s not about the stuff on the outside that matters.

Thank you for sharing your talents, gifts, and abilities with the world.  I think it is quite awesome!

Looking forward to future posts...and diving into the archives!

Peter</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Karol,</p>
<p>I recently discovered your work and I am thrilled that I did.</p>
<p>I, too, am an accomplished striver, successfully achieving &#8220;important&#8221; goals that were suddenly not so important once the goal was met.  Quite often the picture of the steak on the menu looked a lot better than it tasted.  What&#8217;s cool about life is that if you really pay attention to it, life will let you know what it is you need to be doing.</p>
<p>Too often the noise of Madison Ave drowns out that voice of life with glitzy ads selling me on a &#8220;better life&#8221; than the one I have right now.  We all jump on that bandwagon because that&#8217;s what everyone else we know and admire is doing.  Fortunately for me, the empty lessons learned from achieving what I thought I wanted has taught me that I never really needed that stuff anyway.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m happy that I was able to jump off that bandwagon and began walking back to my real self, the self that has always been the only thing I really ever needed.  I have rediscovered my self, and have learned to appreciate all that I am and all that I have already in my life.  No things will ever make me happy.</p>
<p>My new goal is to fully realize my innate potential.  We are all here to fully develop our unique combination of talents, gifts, and abilities and then share all that we are with the world.  As I&#8217;ve evolved to this level of higher responsibility, I feel it is my obligation to be all that I can be and offer it to the world.  That&#8217;s the reason I started blogging&#8230;not for money, nor for fame.  Perhaps my experiences can enlighten others that it&#8217;s not about the stuff on the outside that matters.</p>
<p>Thank you for sharing your talents, gifts, and abilities with the world.  I think it is quite awesome!</p>
<p>Looking forward to future posts&#8230;and diving into the archives!</p>
<p>Peter</p>
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		<title>By: Kelsey</title>
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		<dc:creator>Kelsey</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 18 Jan 2010 21:03:44 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thankfully I was raised by two parents who both lived lifestyles similar to what is popular among the &quot;lifestyle design&quot; crowd today.  Neither let anyone else tell them what they could or couldn&#039;t do, and both pursued their passions (my mother is photographer and my dad is a graphic designer).  Both of them did go through periods in which they tried to please their parents or society and then realized that it didn&#039;t make them happy.  I&#039;m so glad they imparted that knowledge onto me when I was young, because it ended up being an integral part of my worldview.

I also went to a college (&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.hampshire.edu/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Hampshire College&lt;/a&gt; - take a look) that encouraged independence and the evolution of a personalized field of study.  I think that if I had been at a more traditional college, I would have probably not been able to switch my studies around so easily.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thankfully I was raised by two parents who both lived lifestyles similar to what is popular among the &#8220;lifestyle design&#8221; crowd today.  Neither let anyone else tell them what they could or couldn&#8217;t do, and both pursued their passions (my mother is photographer and my dad is a graphic designer).  Both of them did go through periods in which they tried to please their parents or society and then realized that it didn&#8217;t make them happy.  I&#8217;m so glad they imparted that knowledge onto me when I was young, because it ended up being an integral part of my worldview.</p>
<p>I also went to a college (<a href="http://www.hampshire.edu/" rel="nofollow">Hampshire College</a> &#8211; take a look) that encouraged independence and the evolution of a personalized field of study.  I think that if I had been at a more traditional college, I would have probably not been able to switch my studies around so easily.</p>
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		<title>By: Karol</title>
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		<dc:creator>Karol</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 18 Jan 2010 20:01:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>hehe, that hits home because I stuck with a major I didn&#039;t want! I wasn&#039;t strong enough in my convictions back then. There is no way I&#039;d waste my time on something I didn&#039;t want these days.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>hehe, that hits home because I stuck with a major I didn&#8217;t want! I wasn&#8217;t strong enough in my convictions back then. There is no way I&#8217;d waste my time on something I didn&#8217;t want these days.</p>
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		<title>By: Kelsey</title>
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		<dc:creator>Kelsey</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 18 Jan 2010 17:19:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Really great post and video!  I switched majors three times during college, each time refining what I really wanted to do and what I was passionate about, while other people I knew stuck doggedly to majors they had chosen their first semester.  They stuck with their major because they had already sunk time and effort into classes for it, despite the fact that it was no longer something they were passionate about.  I have less class-time in the major I ended up in than most folks do, but I also now have a more varied background, and what I lack in &quot;official&quot; education, I have made up for with self-instruction.  Sticking to something after you know you&#039;re no longer interested in it is just a waste of life.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Really great post and video!  I switched majors three times during college, each time refining what I really wanted to do and what I was passionate about, while other people I knew stuck doggedly to majors they had chosen their first semester.  They stuck with their major because they had already sunk time and effort into classes for it, despite the fact that it was no longer something they were passionate about.  I have less class-time in the major I ended up in than most folks do, but I also now have a more varied background, and what I lack in &#8220;official&#8221; education, I have made up for with self-instruction.  Sticking to something after you know you&#8217;re no longer interested in it is just a waste of life.</p>
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		<title>By: Karol</title>
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		<dc:creator>Karol</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 18 Jan 2010 04:12:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thanks Lauren. Yeah, the &quot;perceived benefit&quot; is what marketers learn (and are taught) to go after. 

On another note, just clicked through to your site and I&#039;m looking forward to more. I ran a couple drop ship Yahoo Stores back in the days. :)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanks Lauren. Yeah, the &#8220;perceived benefit&#8221; is what marketers learn (and are taught) to go after. </p>
<p>On another note, just clicked through to your site and I&#8217;m looking forward to more. I ran a couple drop ship Yahoo Stores back in the days. :)</p>
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		<title>By: Lauren</title>
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		<dc:creator>Lauren</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 18 Jan 2010 04:06:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Great post! I actually just wrote one tonight (that will post tomorrow) about how we tend to buy into the &quot;perceived benefit&quot; of things versus the actual functions of them. For example, we don&#039;t buy a pair of $150 jeans because they cover our butts and keep us warm - we buy them because we think they will make us look rich and skinny. But ultimately, we&#039;re no better off after we buy the jeans than we were before...and we basically lost $150. Keep up the good content!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Great post! I actually just wrote one tonight (that will post tomorrow) about how we tend to buy into the &#8220;perceived benefit&#8221; of things versus the actual functions of them. For example, we don&#8217;t buy a pair of $150 jeans because they cover our butts and keep us warm &#8211; we buy them because we think they will make us look rich and skinny. But ultimately, we&#8217;re no better off after we buy the jeans than we were before&#8230;and we basically lost $150. Keep up the good content!</p>
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		<title>By: V</title>
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		<dc:creator>V</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 13 Jan 2010 20:18:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Funny you should say &quot;from the outside looking in&quot;.  That&#039;s what I said when I first met my fiance, and he said the same thing to me.  We each thought the other&#039;s careers seemed so exciting and it was quite funny when we both confessed we each hated our own jobs!  I think it&#039;s when we fell in love.  :)  
That&#039;s why we think it&#039;d be REALLY interesting if the tv thing were to pan out.  It&#039;s essentially starting out as a creative head, which is what all of us really want to do, anyway.  
Radio/TV/Film has lost a lot of the creativity due to money concerns, and I think if you get to be somewhat in control of that, there may be some sanity left at the end of the day.  
Or not.  
THIS is what I want to find out!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Funny you should say &#8220;from the outside looking in&#8221;.  That&#8217;s what I said when I first met my fiance, and he said the same thing to me.  We each thought the other&#8217;s careers seemed so exciting and it was quite funny when we both confessed we each hated our own jobs!  I think it&#8217;s when we fell in love.  :)<br />
That&#8217;s why we think it&#8217;d be REALLY interesting if the tv thing were to pan out.  It&#8217;s essentially starting out as a creative head, which is what all of us really want to do, anyway.<br />
Radio/TV/Film has lost a lot of the creativity due to money concerns, and I think if you get to be somewhat in control of that, there may be some sanity left at the end of the day.<br />
Or not.<br />
THIS is what I want to find out!</p>
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		<title>By: Karol</title>
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		<dc:creator>Karol</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 13 Jan 2010 20:10:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hey V, thanks for sharing!

I&#039;m wondering if the entertainment industry in general has more unhappy people doing what they don&#039;t want than other industries. If nothing else, you guys are more vocal. Meaning, I&#039;ve heard more stories about unhappiness in entertainment than anything else.

From the outside looking in, TV/Radio sounds pretty exciting. But if you&#039;re not into it nobody is forcing you. :)

Karol</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hey V, thanks for sharing!</p>
<p>I&#8217;m wondering if the entertainment industry in general has more unhappy people doing what they don&#8217;t want than other industries. If nothing else, you guys are more vocal. Meaning, I&#8217;ve heard more stories about unhappiness in entertainment than anything else.</p>
<p>From the outside looking in, TV/Radio sounds pretty exciting. But if you&#8217;re not into it nobody is forcing you. :)</p>
<p>Karol</p>
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